Fixing My New Mommy Funk

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I read a blog post this week that led me back to my central reason for starting a blog. How do I keep myself from getting lost in mommyhood? I have been doing an awful job of this recently. Mommy guilt has set in on numerous occasions, I can’t remember the last time I have seen my friends outside of Facebook, and ditto on doing anything for myself. How do I fix this new mommy funk?

Get out of the damn house

I’m lucky that I have a set of grandparents at home this week, so I can actually venture out by myself. I’ve been using this time to catch up on work, but what I really need to be doing is getting a pedicure, meeting up with a friend or two, having a date night, going to yoga or going to a museum by myself. I have yanked myself out of the house tonight to write this blog post and to make a plan for not being so lame. I’m snacking on oysters and having a glass of Tempranillo as I type. Step 1 complete.

What can I do tomorrow?

I pledge to get a pedicure and go to yoga. I’m incredibly fortunate to have a light work day tomorrow, and the weather will be unseasonably warm. I really have no excuse, and I know that I will feel so much better after a little pampering. If I can take out time once a week for something for myself, I will be much better off.

Why have I felt so paralyzed?

Well, quite frankly, the election in the US and everything afterwards has left me in quite a funk. As a female scientist, these are not the best of times, and I have become anxious in a way I haven’t felt since 2000, but far worse. I’ve written a list of all that I have been most passionately angered by and will seek to work towards doing my part to feel less powerless.

How can I make sure to continue to push myself?

Planning, planning, planning. With so much to do and so much I want to do, flying by the seat of my pants doesn’t work quite so well anymore. If I want to make time for myself, I have to pencil it in. I want to learn coding, become a better photographer, and make sure I have quality time with my little one on top of my full time job. Travel continues to be a driving force for me, so planning my baby’s first international trip is also on the agenda. I cannot do any of this without a plan and careful time management, so I have to commit to being a taskmaster until this comes more naturally to me. I have my work cut out for me, so wish me luck!

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26 Replies to “Fixing My New Mommy Funk”

  1. You’ve made some good points here. It really is up to us, to get up and stop feeling sorry for ourselves (which is so easy to do, right?). Planning ahead is what saves me, and the more I have to do, the more I get it done and the better I feel. Just thinking about things and what you should or could or would really isn’t helping. Taking time for yourself is great, just make sure you NEVER feel guilty by doing so!;) And yes, stick with planning;)) Thanks for linking with #globalblogging

    1. I’m also finding that planning is the key. If I don’t have the day planned, I may as well throw it completely out of the window, and I’m the only one to blame then. I can find time for myself if I plan accordingly! Thanks for commenting!

  2. Ha ‘mommy funk’ love this. I am also stuck in mummy funk. It’s so hard when your in charge of little people to find time for your self but I have to get a grip before I go mad! Good luck with the holiday planning x #globalblogging

    1. Thanks, Laura!

  3. I feel paralized because there are 100001 things to remember. But planning helps. Making lists and taking time for myself does help. O yes… whisky and chocolate also help. #globalblogging

  4. We watch agog from the other side of the pond be assured! Hopefully you managed to get to yoga after. #GlobalBlogging

  5. I know this feeling. We just have to change the way we do things now that we are parents and you are right planning is key! Thank you for linking up to #globalblogging

  6. Good luck with that funk. I hope you are able to find a way to regularly pencil in that ‘me time’!
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    1. Thanks! Still a work in progress!

  7. It’s hard to find me time. I like to keep busy when my girls are in school, but I do so much I forget about me time and making time for friends as well. Good luck. Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky
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  8. Hope you have managed to get to yoga Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  9. Finding time for yourself is one of the most important things for new parents to do IMO. I think the elections, combined with the weather, have us all in a bit of a funk right now #thatfridaylinky

    1. Agreed on all counts!

  10. Amen, Amen and Amen… Can I just type that over and over again!?!? I find myself in a bit of a “Mommy Funk” lately… Time to “shake it off, shake it off” 🙂 Thanks for sharing #globalblogging

  11. Well done you. I think we as mothers always put our needs at the back of the queue with our husbands and kids in front. By the time we get to the front of the queue we’re really just too tired to DO anything and the convince ourselves that all we want is to sleep. But we need more. Unfotunately no one will help us with that except ourselves.
    #stayclassymama

  12. Pedicure and oysters sound amaaaaazing!! I love oysters actually now I am thinking about champagne, YUM. These are awesome suggestions, I definitely think making sure we get out of the house and do something for ourselves is one of the most important things to do. Thanks so much for sharing with #StayClassyMama!
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  13. It’s easy to get into a funk when you’re a new (and even not so new) parent. Getting out on your own is definitely key, as is finding something (like a blog!) that you can do just for you. Good luck with your trip planning! #stayclassymama
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  14. Definitely get out of the house. Even just walking down to the shops makes all the difference. Mum’s& Bubs movies are great cos they give you something to talk about not baby related…#Stayclassymama

  15. I think this is the mom mentality. Getting out of the house is important. I’ve noticed the older I get, the more reclusive I become. Often, the best medicine is just shaking up my routine.

    Good luck on the International trip! It sounds like you have your work cut out for you, but what wonderful memories you’ll have!

    #StayClassyMama

  16. The first step is realisation that things need to shift. This is what I try to imposer in Mommas over on my blog… “Mama it up without loosing YOU”. Hope over and have a gander! The blogosphere is one of those incredible communities that is there to support and empower our fellow Mamas and bloggers! <3 #Stayclassymama

    1. Yeah, I’ve definitely read some of your stuff. We’re on the same page about blogging being a great outlet and a continued reminder of who you are. Thanks for commenting!

  17. Grandparents are fantastic aren’t they? Finding time for yourself is so important x
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  18. it is really hard to get out of the funk – especially when you work from home. Planning is good and I have to force myself not to cancel!!
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  19. Good luck and well done! #bigpinklink

  20. I can completely understand your funk. It is a very worrying time. It sounds as though you have a good plan of action in place though. Lovely to have you linking. #bigpinklink
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  21. Oh bless you, I completely understand. It sounds like you have a plan but try not to be too hard of yourself <3 Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam xx

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